I teared up while reading this article. It is so true that narcissists follow a predictable pattern but when you are in it, the situation feels unique. My ex continues to play games, such as refusing to give me his new address even though the children spend time there. Everything is a battle so he can feel like he is still in control and I continue to feel unbalanced and on edge. I have been told that it can take up to six years to get divorced from someone like him. Meanwhile, I have nightmares almost every night. I am prepared for strangers to yell at me if anything minor happens where I am at fault. I wish there was a magic pill to speed up the healing process. Reading articles like this help because I know I am not alone. Thank you.