Ten Questions I Wish I Could Ask My Narcissistic Ex

I have spent over two years trying to divorce my ex and an obscene amount of money, but very little progress has been made.

This is because he doesn’t want to let me go. I believe in his mind, it would mean he has failed and lost his supply for good, even though he found a new girlfriend shortly after he moved out.

These are ten questions in no particular order, I would like to ask him but won’t because even if he would answer, narcissists can’t be honest even with themselves.

1. Why do you tell everyone that will listen, that you all you care about is our children and that you only want what is best for them but you have only voluntarily made two child support payments in two years? You must realise that your actions are the exact opposite of caring about them when not making the child support payments means they might not have a roof over their head or food to eat.
2. Why do you continue to blame me for the rising legal bills when I wanted to mediate our divorce back in July of 2018 and then our divorce would have cost $50,000 and now the legal fees are over 300,000? I think this was a tactic of yours to force me to sell the house to leave the children and myself homeless.
3. Do you really think it is good parenting to continue to put me down when you have time with the children, is this the only way you think they will care about you?
4. Why have you continued to travel and send the children photos of your trips to Las Vegas, Mexico, London and Africa but not signed your daughter’s passport, keeping us trapped in Canada? All this does is hurt the children, they don’t feel happy and excited for you and your girlfriend.
5. Why do you continue to bribe our daughter with an exchange year in California that would cost at least $30,000 when you aren’t paying the child or spousal support that you are supposed to? You know that I have parental decision making and I have said no repeatedly.
6. Why can’t you admit responsibility for any of your actions?
7. If everything about me is awful, why did you did you want to have a relationship with me? Or is everyone great and suddenly they aren’t, does the shift happen when they will no longer allow you to control them?
8. Why did you take our daughter furniture shopping for her bedroom and then not allow her to have her things, until I told her that I would buy it all again? Why did you take her stuff hostage? She is not going to be your next narcissistic fuel as I am not going to allow it.
9. Have the children told you that we might move to an island? I haven’t told them the reason, but if you keep emotionally abusing and gaslighting them, we are moving far away so you will see them less often. My lawyer already knows. They are not going to be your next two victims if I have any say.
10. Did you ever think that I would get the strength to leave you? Or did you think I would keep putting up with your repeated escalations and just break and become a puddle on the floor where you could keep doing what you wished?

You didn’t break me. No matter how poor the kids and I become, I will show them that no one deserves to stay with someone who treats them the way you did. It is never too late to start over and I would rather be poor than live with you ever again.